5 Reasons to Marry an Older man

Older men can open doors you’ve never even
considered. If they’re your thing, you’re in good
company. Here are 5 reasons to date and marry
an older man:


1.) He can teach you things. Older people just
know more. He’s had 10, 20, or 30 years more to
grow and change, and learn. That matters.
“One of the first things I remember him teaching
me was how to send back food at a restaurant,”
Levi says. “It opened my eyes to a better way of
living and not settling. It showed me in a very
tangible way that I deserved what I asked for
and that it could be excellent or better. And he
loved me enough to want that for me, too.”


2.) An age difference is not always such a big
deal. While a decade may seem HUGE when you are
19 or 20, that fades. And quickly.
“I don’t consider a 10-year gap to be
significant, especially in middle age,” says “Dr.
Romance” Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D.,
psychotherapist, and author of Love Styles: How
to Celebrate Your Differences. “Most women
base their romantic relationships on emotional
connection rather than physical appearance.”
It’s so true. Women I know who are married to
men a decade older have no problem introducing
their friends to their husbands, and he has no
problem getting in the mix. Every month matters
in elementary school, but it’s just not true later
in life.


3.) Your maturity levels match. If you get
married young, the fact is, a 10-year age
difference won’t seem all that significant. Guys
tend to mature more slowly than women, so a 35-
year-old man might be ready for all the things
that a 25-year-old man just wouldn’t be. If you
are looking for marriage and the whole package,
an older man might be where it’s at.
Most of my friends are married to men who are
two or three years older. It’s a small age gap but
can feel enormous when it comes to maturity.
One friend jokes that she and her husband never
would have gotten together had the age
difference not existed. He simply would have
been too immature.


4.) The sex is better. Yes, I know this goes both
ways. Younger men have stamina. But older men.
Well, they’ve got years. And years count.
Writer Jennifer Leckstrom, who is married to a
man 25 years her senior, said it perfectly in a
Your Tango essay about her marriage: “Unlike
with younger guys, the experience with Tom was
more about the two of us than just him and his
desires,” she explains. “Maybe like a fine wine,
men too, improve with age. With him, I felt like I
went from virgin to vixen in record time.”


5.) He’s established. No one likes a gold digger,
but looking for someone who’s done his time in
the early career years is not a bad thing. If a guy
you’re interested in is a doctor or lawyer, for
example, getting him when he’s older and past
the associate or resident levels (which typically
come with ultra long hours) is ideal. For many
people in intense careers, things start to ease up
in their 40s when they’re more established. THAT
is the time for families. So for women looking to
settle down now, finding an older man can be
perfect.

Age is just a number. Or so they say. Love is
going to triumph one way or another, and while
some may look down on a significant gap, plenty
of relationship experts do not.
“As long as both parties are adult, and the couple
have talked about the age difference and the
future possibilities, I don’t make judgments
about their ages,”