WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT MARRIAGE

1. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and
she never asked you if you’re saving or investing,
and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry
her.
2. My son, a woman could be a good wife to you,
some could be a good mother to your children but
if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you,
your children and your family, please don’t let her
go.
3. My son, don’t confine the position of your wife
to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even
in our days, we had farm-lands where they
worked every morning . . . that was our office.
4. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the
house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will
see a smile on your wife’s face.
5. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your
wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult
for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home
needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she
will keep you asking even when all has been
spent.
6. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain
in her body is nothing to be compared to the
wound on her heart and that means you may be
in trouble living with a wounded woman.
7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a
bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon
be single again.
8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and
many children because of our large farm-lands
and many harvests, there are hardly any land for
farming anymore, so embrace your woman
closely.
9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet
your mother could be your eateries and
restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the
closet thing we did there was to embrace each
other.
10. My son, don’t be carried away when you start
making more money, instead of spending on
those tiny legs that never knew how hard you
worked to get it, spend it on that woman that
stood by you all along.
11. My son, when I threw little stones or whistled
at the window of your mother father’s house, to
call her out, it was not for sex, it was because I
missed her so much.
12. My son, remember, when you say your wife
has changed, there could be something you’ve
stopped doing too.
13. My son, your mother, Asake rode the bicycle
with me before I bought that tortoise car outside
there, any woman that won’t endure with you in
your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.
14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any
woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too
and has she ever compared you to any man?
15. My son, there is this thing you people call
feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal
right with you in the house, divide all the bills into
two equal parts, take one part and ask her to
start paying the other part.
16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took
more yams to her father, if you don’t meet your
wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what I didn’t tell
you is that our women had prestige.
17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school
because I was foolish like many to think a female
child won’t extend my family name, please don’t
make that mistake, the kind of female achievers I
see nowadays has made the male-gender an
ordinary tag.
18. My son, your mother have once locked up the
cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because
she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat
her because of a day like this, so that I can be
proud to tell you that I never for once beat your
mother.
19. My son, in our days, our women had more of
natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some
had minor painting of their appellation mostly on
their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo,
but don’t forget that they didn’t expose any part of
their body like your women of nowadays.
20. My son, your mother and I are not interested
in what happens in your marriage, try to handle
issues without always coming to us.
21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s
first sewing machine for her, help your wife
achieve her dreams just as you’re pursuing
yours.
22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your
mother, it’s a secret of growing old and having
children to take care of you too.
23. My son, pray with your family, there is a
tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that knows
everything, everyday.